Part 2 of Breaking Free
Based on my personal experience and working with past clients I’ve identified 14 things we MUST Break Free from in order to get unstuck and finally create what we want in our life and in our business.
But first, here’s what being stuck means
Being stuck is when you have a specific goal and despite some effort (or maybe no effort) over a period of time and you still have not reached your goal. You aren’t sure what’s getting in the way of reaching your goal or HOW to Break Free but you know something must change now.
Maybe you’ve read articles online searching for answers.
Or maybe you’ve watched a ton of free webinars looking for a magic bullet to solve your problem but nothing is working. You are still in the same place as you were 3 months ago, 6 months ago, a year a go, or maybe 5 years ago.
You are stressed out, overwhelmed and frustrated.
I have been there too dear friend. It is so stressful to be stuck. But you CAN BREAK FREE! I know this because I have been stuck before in my life and in my own business and I was able to Break Free. You can too!
Here are the 14 primary things that we MUST Break Free from in order to get Unstuck.
- Not telling the absolute radical truth
- Powerlessness- Telling our victim story or victim thinking
- Fear, Scarcity and Lack thinking
- Being tethered to limiting beliefs
- Not feeling good enough/worthlessness
- Not living our truth/ The Fraud Factor
- Lack of resilience, determination, perseverance, resourcefulness, and grit to overcome EVERY obstacle and challenge to achieve your goal.
- Not knowing your WHY- lack of strong motivation and drive
- Lack of clarity. No vision.
- Lack of skills required to create what you want or wrong strategy
- Lack of accountability and lack of support
- Treating symptoms of the problem instead of healing the problem at the root source
- Not taking ACTION!!
- Not cultivating a daily connection and not being tuned in to guidance from a higher power/God.
ALL of these things must be conquered in order to finally BREAK FREE!
Let’s start with #1- Not telling the absolute radical truth
The solution is having the courage to tell the truth and expose every shadow, fear, excuse, blame, judgement, habit and victim story that we keep hidden from sight.
The ego loves to hold onto fabrications and tell half truths.
We must take full ownership of our actions (or inaction), habits, beliefs, thoughts, words, motives, fears and the decisions that we made that create what’s showing up in our life our business not.
I challenge you to have an honest moment with your self right now and then do something radically different to change it.
True Story. My moment of truth about my weight problem
When I first started my weight loss journey in January 2015, I was lying to myself about the sweets I was eating and about my portion sizes of food.
After six months of barely moving the scale despite effort to lose weight, I decided to come clean and tell the truth about every bite of food I was putting in my mouth.
I realized I had ONLY two choices:
I could keep lying to myself and stay fat or I could tell the radical truth, measure my food portions, exercise 4 days weekly and reach my weight goal.
I didn’t have the skill to know what to eat or how to exercise in order to lose weight. So I hired a personal trainer to teach me how to lose weight based on my body type and age and then I did the work. Day after day. Week after week.
I also did my inner work to heal my weight problem at the root source (this was essential) which was unworthiness, shame and fear.
That’s how I lost 30 lbs. I wasn’t perfect with my diet but I did not quit until I reached my goal.
Telling the truth always sets us free.
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Your Next Step:
Think of an area in your life or business where you feel stuck and you are ready to BREAK FREE.
Write down the truth about how you’ve contributed to being stuck or getting the results you are currently getting.
Then write down one action step you can do weekly to Break Free.
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You CAN Break Free from EVERY obstacle that is getting in the way of achieving your goals, dreams and your calling. Don’t give up. Finish.
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Much love,
April Yvette
Writer, Speaker, Creative Marketing Strategist, Change Agent.
Seen on: Shark Tank, ABC, FOX, NBC, Los Angeles Times
Great points, April! It is tough to be honest with yourself – when the truth is ugly. But it’s the only path to true freedom. The road home may have bumps but the destination is worth the ride!
Frank, I love your comment here. Being willing to tell the whole truth is not always easy. Heck no! The ego (fear) never wants us to admit anything. That is how we stay stuck. But when we do tell the whole truth AND take action to change that is the only way to reach our destination. Welcome and thanks for sharing!
Hi April,
Great piece!
I’ve been stuck for a while from unworthiness bc I never finished college. Yet, I’m an accomplished writer on days I actually believe it. Having an older mentally disabled brother cemented the insecurities. “I’m just like him!” I tell myself. Everyday, I believe it, it becomes the truth.
Thanks for your suggestions. Will take them for a spin. : )
~lLauren
Lauren, First, thank you for having the courage to share so openly here. There are many others who feel unworthy too or have felt that way in the past. It happened to me too. I was a teenage mom and dropped out of high school in 11th grade. I got my GED. Then from 2000 to 2003 I went to college part time. I was a single mom at the time. I got so busy selling real estate that I did not finish college. I spent many years feeling not good enough and not smart enough because I did not finish high school or college. This drove me to become an excellent student. I read 125 books. I paid to learn from mentors. I won awards. I generated $9 Million dollars in sales in one year. I invented a product and attracted publicity. I was a speaker for the graduating class of MBA students and at 4 other Universities. Even after all that, I still struggled with worthiness privately. My turning point came when I finally DECIDED to feel good enough. I let go of my victim story and I took my power back. I read books on how to feel worthy and I started a daily practice and I prayed. I began to love myself for who I AM. I finally feel good enough. It’s a practice. The peace and joy I feel is incredible. I’m sharing all this because if I can do this, I know you can too. We all can. You are good enough just the way you are with or without a degree. If you choose to get a degree awesome. But you are worthy with or without it.