subscribers submit a question and I share my best advice.Today, I’m answering Question #2.
“I have been going to start a blog for SIX YEARS! I know once I start I cannot stop or it will fail. Are there any questions I can ask myself to determine why I am so dang stuck?” – Rebecca/Retired Nurse/USA
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Dear Rebecca,
Great question! Anytime we decide to pursue a calling, a goal, or a dream we are always met with resistance. It’s our job to recognize resistance when it shows up and press past it.
Writing (or any creative endeavor) is an act of courage and it takes a willingness to be vulnerable. Allowing yourself to be SEEN and HEARD can trigger fear which is resistance.
When you said, “Once I start, I know I can’t stop or it will fail.”,
that tells me you likely have a “Fear of Failure”. And that could be
the root cause of not starting your blog. I’ve struggled with this fear too.
When you said, “I know I can’t stop”. There may be some fear that it
will “take a lot of time” and this could trigger feelings of overwhelm.
However, you can over come this fear and resistance and start your blog.
But first, here are…
5 Reason’s WHY we don’t take action on our calling, desires, goals, ideas and dreams and how to take action now.
I’ve included some questions you can ask yourself to gain clarity
and press past fear and resistance and finally take action.
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Fear of the unknown
Fear of not being loved
Fear of rejection
Fear of being seen- your authentic selfAsk yourself this question:
“WHY do I want to start a blog?” (or whatever you want to start?)
Having a compelling reason WHY you want to do something will
pull you forward to do it.
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If your beliefs are in conflict with what you say you want It’s like having one foot on the gas peddle and one foot on the brakes. You won’t get very far. Belief conflicts trigger self-sabotaging behaviors.
“Are my beliefs in conflict with what I say I want?”
The root cause of self-sabotage is fear.Ask yourself this question by Debbie Ford:
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5. It’s just not that important to you
“On a scale of 1-10 (10 being highest),
If what you want is less than 8, it may be time to choose something different that will be a level 10 passion for you.
Your next step is to make a firm decision and take one small action towards what you desire now. Not tomorrow or next week. Today.
I hope this was helpful for you. Have a great week!
I’m struggling to “get ahead” or make progress in creating a business (hand-made quilting). After much soul-searching, I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m lazy! But….is this laziness actually fear? Fear in EVERY area? Am I lazy about doing the sewing because I’m really afraid of my quilts not being liked? Am I lazy about setting up an Etsy store (or other ‘advertising’) because I’m afraid of failing? I’m easily distracted—playing around on my iPad instead of sewing, etc. I always have an excuse for everything… I’m wondering now if my “laziness” isn’t actually fear!!
Hi Jude, I’ve found that sometimes it’s both a lack of commitment (laziness) and fear that keeps us from reaching our goals and dreams. If you do the inner work to transform the core wounds, fears and limiting beliefs. And after doing that, if you still find you are not taking action that could be a lack of commitment. You are a powerful creator and you CAN create a successful business. You have to take action consistently.